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“Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver
by the Rev. Dr. E. Scott Jones
First Central Congregational Church
28 July 2019
Today we conclude our series based on the poems of Mary Oliver, who died in January. And we are concluding with one of her most popular poems, “Wild Geese.”
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
Krista Tippett, the host of the radio show On Being, described this poem “Wild Geese” as “a poem that has saved lives.” What does she mean?
I found one example online written by a biochemist named Brandon Taylor as he described the effect of the poem upon him:
For a long time, I felt unworthy of the world. For great periods of my life, I still feel unworthy of the world. This is not an uncommon state. Worthiness is the chief subject of the poem, to me. The speaker, in an act of breathtaking generosity, offers the reader, no matter how lowly or afield they have found themselves, an opportunity to reenter the world. There is an entreaty to follow the natural grain of one’s character, to heed one’s desire. There is no need to repent, to apologize, to make amends for how one is. . . . The source of all of this acceptance and love is in the beauty of the world as it is. The rain. The geese in their flight. And at the end, one is offered a place, not in the world of people, but in the kingdom of things, a haunting reminder of the scope and presence of nature.
I feel worthy of being in the world when I think of “Wild Geese.” I feel that the world has use for me, that there is a place for me in the world that is vaster and greater and eternal.
And so this poem is quite popular; it comforts and inspires people. But there is more to it than one might realize on a first read.
Shortly after Mary Oliver’s death, Jeanna Kadlec wrote a piece for Lit Hub pointing out the power of Mary Oliver as a queer poet and particularly the queer perspective in this popular poem “Wild Geese,” a perspective often missed by readers. Kadlec wrote:
“Wild Geese” is distinctly, uniquely queer. In the poem, the speaker gives the reader permission to inhabit their body: to be present in it, to know and own what they want without shame. Harder to do than it sounds, as any queer can tell you.
Kadlec wrote about growing up an Evangelical who later in life had to learn that she could desire within her own body. Since I grew up a Southern Baptist gay kid, I can identify with that statement.
Kadlec wrote, “’Wild Geese,’ and so many other poems, are about allowing ourselves the permission to be fully present in our bodies and their incumbent desires.” She then drew this connection to queer life:
This world, still, would diminish and constrain and limit and imprison and even kill gay and lesbian and trans and bisexual and queer people, simply for occupying our bodies in a way as honest as the otters and birds that Oliver observed on her walks through the woods and beaches of Provincetown. Don’t be afraid of its plenty, she says of love. Joy is not made to be a crumb. [sic]
What a delight that America’s most beloved and best-selling poet of recent decades, a writer widely embraced for her spirituality, who was described as the favorite poet of Christian ministers, was in fact a lesbian. And a lesbian who wrote with erotic passion about her lover. Such as this excerpt from “The Gardens,”
shall I touch you
unless it is
here and there,
the heart within you,
and the animal,
and the voice.
In the late 1950’s Mary Oliver was staying at Steepletop, the home of Edna St. Vincent Millay, which drew writers and artists, when one day she walked into the kitchen and saw the photographer Molly Malone Cook sitting at the table. Oliver described the moment, “I took one look and fell, hook and tumble.”
Oliver and Cook were together for more than forty years. They lived much of that time in Provincetown, Massachusetts, known as a gay mecca. They ran a bookshop together there and each pursued her art. Oliver learned much from Cook that affected her poetry. She wrote, “M. instilled in me this deeper level of looking and working, of seeing through the heavenly visibles to the heavenly invisibles.”
When Cook died of cancer in 2005 at the age of eighty, Oliver produced a book entitled Our World which combined Cook’s photographs with Oliver’s writing. A true testament of love and devotion. In that book, Oliver wrote of the surprising ways one can spend a lifetime with someone and still not fully know them. This is best expressed in the poem “The Whistler.”
All of a sudden she began to whistle. By all of a sudden
I mean that for more than thirty years she had not
whistled. It was thrilling. At first I wondered, who was
in the house, what stranger? I was upstairs reading, and
she was downstairs. As from the throat of a wild and
cheerful bird, not caught but visiting, the sounds war-
bled and slid and doubled back and larked and soared.
Finally I said, Is that you? Is that you whistling? Yes, she
said. I used to whistle, a long time ago. Now I see I can
still whistle. And cadence after cadence she strolled
through the house, whistling.
I know her so well, I think. I thought. Elbow and ankle-
Mood and desire. Anguish and frolic. Anger too.
And the devotions. And for all that, do we even begin
to know each other? Who is this I’ve been living with
for thirty years?
This clear, dark, lovely whistler?
Jeanna Kadlec points out that Oliver is best known as a nature poet, but she also wrote about what it means to “love and learn one woman for nearly half a century.” What it means to pay attention not just to birds and rivers but to the body one loves. Kadlec continues, “There is a consistent affirmation in Oliver’s poetry that we are worthy of our lover’s time, effort, gratitude. This is the queer erotic: the validation of our bodies as worthy of attention, of desire, of sex.”
Consider these lines from the poem “The Plum Trees,”
so sensible as sensual inundation. Joy
is a taste before
it’s anything else, and the body
can lounge for hours devouring
the important moments. Listen,
the only way
to tempt happiness into your mind is by taking it
into the body first, like small
According to Kadlec,
Oliver’s eroticism is more visible to the queer reader, who knows that queerness isn’t just about queer sex: it is a fundamentally individual way of looking at the world. To queer is to break down—to destroy—the structures that would limit or bar or imprison us, and to rethink or even replace them.
Of course this June was the fiftieth anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, a key turning point in the struggle for LGBTQ civil rights. I was away on vacation that weekend, camping out with my husband and son. Michael and I had some melancholy that we weren’t at one of the big gay pride festivals or parades occurring all over the country. But we also felt a sense of liberated accomplishment that here we were, a queer family, living our lives. Surely that was its own celebration of what Stonewall and the gay pride movement have meant.
Christianity has long been responsible for the oppression of sexual and gender minorities. This resulted from some deep theological mistakes. Christian theology has often struggled with embracing the human body, sexuality, and desire. This is a legacy of St. Augustine and other early thinkers.
But history didn’t have to be that way. One of our core teachings is that God inhabited a human body, becoming fully flesh and experiencing all that it means to be human, and thereby transfiguring human bodies into divine bodies. These teachings are the more ancient heritage of Christianity. And in recent decades, sometimes led by queer scholars and theologians, the church has reawakened to its own ideas and has come to more fully embrace desire, sexuality, and the body.
And so we hold Mary Oliver as an example. A queer religious poet who taught us that we love God by loving what God has created. That includes rivers, whales, plums, and geese. And also bodies. Our own bodies and the bodies of those we love. We can in fact draw closer to God by desiring and loving each other.
That remains a healing, liberating, life-saving message. A good news for us, as God’s people, to proclaim.
Let me conclude with one elegy I saw posted by an ordinary fan on Facebook. It said, “Mary Oliver a quiet pioneer, a queer icon, a brave poet, and a beautiful human. Thank you for everything you gave to us.” Amen.
I've enjoyed reading the Stonewall series at The Guardian and The Atlantic. Two of my favourites at the latter were this one on the intellectual side of the movement and this one on the internal changes in queer people that was the most significant result.
Another interesting article was this one, arguing that the movement has succeeded. The author is more conservative than I am, but there was much that I did agree with in the article. Here are some excerpts:
A culture that once preached individuality and personal freedom has become conformist and hectoring, its self-appointed queer commissars constantly policing the language and bringing pressure to bear on those who run afoul of their ever-evolving standards.
For many of those whose political identities have been shaped by crusades against government discrimination and pervasive societal ignorance, victimhood is too essential an identity to be so easily discarded.
I think the article also bears on the debate over Resolution 8 at this year's United Church of Christ General Synod, of which I will have more to say in a later post.
How exciting that Marsha Johnson and Sylvia Rivera are going to be honored by a monument in New York City!
The weather report indicated that there was a chance I was going to drive into a snowstorm. I didn't relish the thought. Obviously. But I still left my house at 5:30 a.m. Friday planning to drive almost 300 miles into north central Nebraska ranching country to attend a funeral of a woman I'd met twice.
Agatha Forsyth was the wife of one of my United Church of Christ clergy colleagues, the licensed lay pastor Diana Jahn. Diana I have interacted with numerous times over the years at denominational meetings, always enjoying my conversations with her. My fascination has always been that she was serving as an openly gay clergy person in a tiny country church. There was a time when she and I were the only openly gay UCC clergy in the state. I deeply admired in 2015 when she signed our Ready-To-Marry statement and the Lincoln Journal-Star focused on how even this small rural church was gay welcoming.
So, to honor my colleague, in more ways than one, I wanted to travel those hundreds of miles into a snowstorm for her wife's funeral.
Purdum, Nebraska lies deep in the Sandhills, far from any major towns or highways. The Sandhills are one of North America's most interesting and unique landscapes, though often overlooked for more dramatic mountain vistas. The grass covered hills and small lakes and ponds make this ideal ranching country.
A few years ago Diana and Agatha were already living and ranching in Purdum, having moved there 13 years ago from Maine, when the church needed a new pastor. The congregation itself asked Diana to become their pastor. She received the training and was licensed to the church.
The forecast had predicted rain changing to wintry mix for most of my drive, but that held off. Because of flooding and washed out roads and bridges, the quickest route wasn't the most direct. I traveled west along I-80 to Grand Island, Nebraska and then turned northwest for more than two hours along the Sandhills Scenic Byway of Highway 2.
In Broken Bow, Nebraska, almost four hours into my journey, sleet changing to snow began to fall. It quickly became very thick, covering the road, and making travel slippery. I began to contemplate turning around. I feared driving into more remote country (and spotty cell coverage) with bad weather. Plus, the snow was slowing me down such I feared I wouldn't make it on time, but I only had a little more than an hour left to travel, so I continued forward wondering what to do, when suddenly the heavy snow let up and the road became easily traversable again.
An hour later there was a lovely moment as I rounded a bend in the road which lies in the river valley of the Middle Loup--the Burlington train was moving west along rails lying beside the highway, a lone cow was grazing in the foreground, the Sandhills were rising in the background, and Classical music was playing on the radio.
I arrived in Halsey with time to spare, so drove on past my turn to see the Nebraska National Forest. If you are puzzled by the idea of a national forest on the Great Plains know that the forest was hand planted. While driving through the forest, a massive hawk flew majestically overhead.
Purdum, an unicorporated village, lies 18 miles north of highway 2 at Halsey, and those 18 miles are directly through the abrupt rolling hills of the Sandhills. What a fascinating landscape with almost no trees or shrubs and only the occasional turnoff for a ranch. I wondered what the drive will be like in a few weeks with green grass and wildflowers.
And suddenly there's Purdum, with the church as the primary public building. The place was full, as it seems the surrounding community all turned out. Nine of Diana's clergy colleagues were in attendance, almost all from the eastern side of the state, so we shared our adventures in driving that early morning.
The music for the service included "Somewhere Over the Rainbow," Whitney Houston's "I Will Always Love You," Bette Midler's "Wind Beneath My Wings," and closed with k. d. lang's version of Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah." One of Agatha's friends celebrated "this marvelous, crazy woman." The eulogy was delivered by a local woman who talked of how central Agatha and Diana have been not only to the church but the community. Near the close of her remarks she thanked Agatha and Diana for teaching the community "not to judge."
And I found myself crying after those words as Bette Midler sang on the recording. Here in the remote ranching country of the Sandhills was this wide, inclusive, gay-affirming embrace of the Christian church. In a place that stereotypically it would be least expected. And it was being honored and celebrated.
After a delicious country funeral lunch with multiple pasta and jello salads (maybe 7 of the latter?) and a smorgasboard of desserts (I limited myself to three), I got on the road for the return trip.
The radio kept warning about the snow in western and north central Nebraska, but I hadn't needed a coat in Purdum and there was very little precipitation until once again I neared Broken Bow where it started in almost the exact same place it had stopped for me en route almost four hours before. Now Broken Bow was covered in what looked like 3 inches of snow. It snowed until the other side of the town. In my entire 600 miles of driving it snowed only in Broken Bow, both coming and going. So odd.
In Grand Island I stopped for coffee with the Rev. Stephen Mitchell and his husband. Stephen has been pastoring our UCC church there since last year, but we hadn't yet had time to really sit down and get to know one another. I needed the stop, as I was beginning to tire, but the rest fortified me for the final leg home. Stephen and Paul have 30 grandchildren.
I told Stephen I had joked with Michael that morning, "I'm on my great gay clergy tour of Nebraska, seeing all three of us."
I arrived home around 6:30, 13 hours after leaving. Michael had fixed a delicious dinner of roast pork. After dinner it was my night for bedtime routine with our son.
When Mary Oliver died last week, I missed seeing explorations of her as a queer artist, so I was glad for this piece written by Jeanna Kadlec on the role of queer desire in Oliver's poems, including some of her most familiar ones. An excerpt:
Take “Wild Geese,” perhaps her most beloved poem. “Wild Geese” is distinctly, uniquely queer. In the poem, the speaker gives the reader permission to inhabit their body: to be present in it, to know and own what they want without shame. Harder to do than it sounds, as any queer can tell you. Brandon Taylor has written about how this poem speaks to validating the reader’s worthiness. For me, someone who grew up in the evangelical church, the experience of reading “Wild Geese” has often been about receiving permission to desire within my own body: I do not have to be good; I do not have to repent.